I know he does not wish to go back to her... from what I understand they had a pretty bad relationship, she was consistently unfaithful to him... from what he's told me, it seems like he doesn't have a very high opinion of her. I brought this up a couple weeks ago with him and he told me that she was "unmotivated, uneducated white trash" and that it took him a long time to realize it and that he'll never forget it.

I honestly don't know why he stayed with her as long as he did... ALL of his friends (male and female) hated her. He said she was a huge ****** to everybody... I think a lot of it had to do in part with his self-esteem issues. He used to weigh 300 pounds and over the past 2 years through diet and exercise has lost 100 lbs. He's gained back 25 pounds since we started dating and it's been causing him A LOT of stress, as his biggest fear is putting the weight back on.

When I asked him why he was checking her e-mails, he said it was because he found out (through a friend) that she's been having an affair with a married man for the past 6 months (while she was in a relationship with someone else), and he was "checking up on her."

My response? "That's not your job."