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Default Dec 01, 2022 at 01:49 PM
 
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Originally Posted by TishaBuv View Post
He was raised by parents who showed little emotion. He made it his style to show no emotion in his job for self preservation. Although he likes humor and can lol, he doesn’t show empathic emotion much.

The relationship was a power imbalance. He was the boss and I the worker. He wasn’t mean and demanding about that. It was an unspoken agreement. I picked up on his unspoken wants and did it because I wanted the relationship, knew if I didn’t he’d find someone else who would. But I did want it to feel real and satisfying to me, to my soul. I asked for too much. It became an obsession which turned into me having weekly meltdown episodes.
This is his upbringing and why he struggles to understand your emotional needs. It’s not a narcissistic intentional but more in lack of understanding that can at times lead to him withdrawing. Yet mostly due to a personal discomfort then of malice. How old is he?
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Thanks for this!
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