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Dec 01, 2022, 05:40 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2004
Location: Kentucky, USA
Posts: 25,079
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Quote:
Originally Posted by *Beth*
In the '90's I was seeing an outstanding psychologist. He taught me that the most effective way to communicate was to be validating (validate the other's position) and assertive (assert your own position).
Sounds easy; it often is not. A smart habit to practice.
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Problem is that usually by the time they push me into my assertive mode they have already proven that what they are doing is WRONG & there is nothing valid about what they are doing. I am pretty laid back until pushed too far & at that point all they get is assertive
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