My Support Forums - View Single Post - Not being assertive enough which leads to people taking anger out on you

eskielover · Dec 01, 2022 at 05:40 PM

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Originally Posted by *Beth*

In the '90's I was seeing an outstanding psychologist. He taught me that the most effective way to communicate was to be validating (validate the other's position) and assertive (assert your own position).

Sounds easy; it often is not. A smart habit to practice.

Problem is that usually by the time they push me into my assertive mode they have already proven that what they are doing is WRONG & there is nothing valid about what they are doing. I am pretty laid back until pushed too far & at that point all they get is assertive