There's a simple answer, spend it on my own as I did last year. That was Christmas Day. Got up when I wanted to, ate/drank what I wanted, watched TV, followed pilot friend on his roster, chatted to some people on social media. Far better than dynamics at my brother's house, with sister-in-law's attitude.

In my aunt's words, it was "liberating". We went to mother's following day, because my aunt wasn't doing anything. Can't remember if we met up in between, but didn't spend New Year with her because I didn't feel great (snuffles!).

Of course, me going to brother on Christmas Day means I would drive mother. As he's "overworked", would then be able to relax (a few drinks!) whilst he cooks the main meal.

Maybe I've acted in haste in accepting the invite. Now praying for lots of snow!