I am sorry agony.

As you have admitted,,this "putting one against" the other is so very common in human exchanges when there are two sides to the conflict...

But value is not something simply discouraged by words. His children know where certain things came from but due to their present state of powerlessness and uncertainty they will sit quietly with their pain and confusion.

It is those little souls that are the true victims here...their world is again upside down...

Maybe a small card sent to them with a simple "I Love you" and a PS stating that they don't have to pick any side in this,,,that you will love them and will always be here for them if they need anything...and that your sorry that they are feeling uncertain...

IMHO.

Lenny