Was told days before my 25th wedding anniversary that he was no longer in love with me. Then a month later I get confirmation of an affair. I spent a month being devastated trying to get him to talk to me. My pain meant nothing to him as he continued to lie. Just turned the corner into anger and since I don't tend to stay angry long I expect this stage to pass more quickly than grief. Suppot groups like this, hobbies and charity work is proving to be my salvation. Having those things in your life that bring you joy- just you- is invauable