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Dec 02, 2022, 02:54 PM
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Member Since: Jul 2019
Location: Downtown Vibes, California
Posts: 15,701
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Oh, my goodness, I believe that @Open Eyeshas made an excellent point. I was 18, 3 months out of high school, when I met my future husband. We almost immediately moved in together. I did go to college, but while we were living together. We had a separation during which time I worked, but it was only a few months long. Three years in we were married and I fulfilled the biggest dream I had - being a homemaker and stay at home mom.
Everything was wonderful until the kids were around 10 and 13 and my husband was more interested in his work than in our family. The children didn't need me as much. I didn't drink, I just wandered into affairs.
I'm finding myself, at age 60, with the life experience of a woman much younger. People often tell me, "Oh, my gosh! You don't look sixty!" Yeah, well, that's not because of the moisturizer I use. It's because I'm emotionally stunted, and I know it.
It is 100% TRUE that being a homemaker is very, very hard work - no doubt about that! However, it is also a life's work that shelters one from the world, in a strong way. Most of your interaction is with children and with adults who interact mostly with children. In a very specific way, a woman who is a SAHM never totally learns how to become a complete adult.
There is no easy or perfect answer to the situation, because I still believe that being home to raise children is an extremely important job.
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