Apple you had the exact same thread posted just a week ago and then another one few days ago. Two of the identical threads are on the same forum. Are there new details in the situation?

Of course it’s valuable to investigate why people do what they do. But honestly much better time spent to investigate why we do what we do and make changes in our lives as we can’t change other people.

I’d address with your therapist why do you engage in lengthy conversations and show so much interest and care in the person you consider a bully. You don’t like her. She is a bully. It’s ok to be polite but no need to engage with her.

It also appears that even though you don’t like any of these girls you contact them a lot and are upset if they don’t respond. You seem to crave their attention. It’s not uncommon. But if you don’t like them, it’s better to keep your distance.

I don’t know if they are narcissists and we can’t diagnose random strangers. I’d say that since they were young children ( 12-13) diagnosing them as narcissists would be unfair. I’d say pre teens and teens exhibit some tough behaviors. It’s not an easy age. She called you gay and you told people she did drugs. Sounds like you both exhibited some middle school behaviors. You were kids.

I think it’s time to wrap up childhood friendships and start looking for new people in your life. Colleagues or classmates or hobby partners or people at the gym. No childhood drama