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Originally Posted by divine1966
Apple you had the exact same thread posted just a week ago and then another one few days ago. Two of the identical threads are on the same forum. Are there new details in the situation?
Of course it’s valuable to investigate why people do what they do. But honestly much better time spent to investigate why we do what we do and make changes in our lives as we can’t change other people.
I’d address with your therapist why do you engage in lengthy conversations and show so much interest and care in the person you consider a bully. You don’t like her. She is a bully. It’s ok to be polite but no need to engage with her.
It also appears that even though you don’t like any of these girls you contact them a lot and are upset if they don’t respond. You seem to crave their attention. It’s not uncommon. But if you don’t like them, it’s better to keep your distance.
I don’t know if they are narcissists and we can’t diagnose random strangers. I’d say that since they were young children ( 12-13) diagnosing them as narcissists would be unfair. I’d say pre teens and teens exhibit some tough behaviors. It’s not an easy age. She called you gay and you told people she did drugs. Sounds like you both exhibited some middle school behaviors. You were kids.
I think it’s time to wrap up childhood friendships and start looking for new people in your life. Colleagues or classmates or hobby partners or people at the gym. No childhood drama
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Yes there is new content in my message I didn't mention in my pervious post of Sophie and Kate that was involved and how Kate still try and talk to me even though I wasn't hardly best friends with her or even hang outside of art course. The only time I saw her with Ashely was back in 2017 and that was once.
I try to cut Kate out of my socail media because I kept having flash backs of this fight I had with Sophie back in 2017. I mention it in my post. As well told me that Sophie will only forgive me if I'm sorry for everything and that was after sending a apology message to Sophie through Kate. Because Sophie blocked me on socail media so there was no way on contacting her.
I sent the apology message back in 2019 and it was either last year or this year that Kate told me Sophie will only forgive me if I'm sorry for everything.
Which was odd because Sophie did reply back in 2019 after 3 months I sent the message.
It's in my post if you want to read. I was under the impression in the message she didn't want to be friends again.
So I was very confused and upset by what Kate told me.
I thought they must've spoken.
I do feel at times paraiond because Kate keeps trying to contact me. I've got to the point I just send cat videos to her and she does back to keep her "happy"
But now out of no where Ashely contacted me wanted to meet up. I thought it was odd..
I say this because in the post I wrote, back in maybe 2018 Kate accidently sent me a screen shot of someone's friend list on Facebook. I recongise the person because they went to the art course as well and I realised they work in the same company as Sophie.
Anyway, Kate said to me "Sorry that was meant for Jowie"
I thought to myself does Kate "spy" on other people for Sophie.
Thars when I got suss why is Kate trying to contact me after 6 months not talking to me and Ashely after 4 years not talking to me.
I do think they "talk" because back in maybe 2019 this guy named Rory I mention in the post. Who went out with Sophie and is friends with Kate told me over and over "you remind my friend who has Autism" I felt labeled and judge.
What is odd Kate assume I had autism too because I told her how I went to this group therapy and you use sensory stuff to clam yourself down.
My therapist even did a autism test on me and I don't have it.
But I thought it was odd at around the same time period both of them mention autism.
My therapist told me to stop talking to Rory because he had controlling traits after analysing my messages I sent to him and him back to me.
The reason why I contacted Ashely was I thought maybe she changed and maybe there could be some healing take place from the past between us. However I'm afarid bringing it up because it might open up a can of worms and affect my mental health.
I've decided not to talk to Ashely anymore.
Even my therapist suggested not too.
I also have this pleasing thing and always put people first before me and I forget to look after myself. So it feels werid to not to talk to Ashely out of my own mental well being.
The gay part was at school the drug part was to one guy in our art class we were in our early 20's ,but they were already bullying me before that happened.