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Originally Posted by Mendingmysoul
The need to discipline children is used as disguise for abuse in the scenarios where there is an interaction between adults and chidren.Like in parent and offspring relationship,teacher student relationship or adult relatives and children relationships.Anywhere when there is power imbalance ( a child is almost powerless in the above scenarios),adults getaway with abuse.I think rarely a child is assertive,even if it is ,it can be chalked off as the child being undisciplined and that again gives power for an adult to abuse more under the disguise of discipline. Its a hamster wheel. I could only get off of it as an adult, while the abusers are trying hard to put me back into my place.It is really hard to stand your ground.
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I agree, there's a difference between genuinely trying to discipline a child who exhibits poor behavior and abuse disguised as discipline. Parents and teachers are the most likely to do this, this is especially obvious when they get mad at something the child did and they just won't let it go. I could do the smallest thing as a child and my dad would lecture me for hours, there were even times when he would still bring it up for a few days. In a similar way you can tell a teacher is on a power trip when they yell at one student for doing something but they allow another student to do the same thing or something similar without getting mad, another way you can tell is if they also go on very long lectures rather than getting to the point and then getting right back to the lesson.