You also have to remember when your husband flirted with that woman at work, he also told her that “things weren’t good” between you two. Who knows if he told her he’s sleeping on a couch. That’s how he justified his actions. Not saying you flirted with a guy but his wife might see it very differently. Some people could raise he$$ if they suspect their spouse is up to no good (even if nothing bad really happened). They might call work places or embarrass suspected affair partners (even if not true) in public. Not worth it.