I haven't made any progress with not contacting ex-T on our anniversary. It's coming up again in March...9 years! I'd like to think that I can finally put her behind me. I've made huge improvements since, and I've had two good Ts since too. I don't know what good it's doing me to write her. I don't put a return address, so she can't respond. I can't control her, or make her feel anything. I got all the closure I'm ever going to get. And yet something in me just wants to remind her that I still exist. ...Something to work through L with.