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Dec 08, 2022, 02:13 PM
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Originally Posted by Yaowen
Since this is a pattern of behavior and not just someone having a bad day, I think you are very wise to be thinking as you do about this person. Although I am not in your shoes and wouldn't want to trespass on the uniqueness of your experience, I suffer from anxiety and depression and have had to cut certain people out of my for the sake of my mental health.
Some people can become toxic through illness or upbringing or just plain ill will, but whatever the cause, being around such people is not very helpful. I am sorry that your "friend" was lacking in empathy, understanding and tact. Sometimes it takes a while to find out what bad habits people have since in the beginning, efforts are usually made to put on a good face.
Sadly when this "honeymoon phase" of a friendship wanes, peoples real strengths and weaknesses manifest themselves. I'm sorry you do not have a more kindly and compassionate friend, but I think your feelings are completely understandable.
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Thank you, Yaowen, for your compassion. It's really frustrating that she thinks it's just "lip service" to support someone and hear their frustration, rather than say whatever it is, in her opinion, needs to be said. I mean, why not, "Seesaw, I'm sorry that you trainer is jumping to such drastic conclusions and being so pessimistic. I know how hard this is. I understand." How is that lip service? I don't think it is. I mean it was certainly not the time for her to launch into a diatribe about what it would mean for me to retire Andy, hypothetically. Like read the fricking room.
It's not being sensitive to be dealing with a health issue for a family member and to not appreciate people jumping to the worst conclusions about the outcome. I don't think that's being overly sensitive or sensitive. I think any normal person would not like that.
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Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder
Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia.
Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien
Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less...
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