Thanks, Unaluna. It was definitely a bit of passive aggressive gaslighting, and yes, I have forgiven other comments because there is a significant age difference between us, and as I said, I have mostly enjoyed her company and talking dogs with her.

But I'm not going to tip toe around people and be quiet when they say hurtful things or talk about things I find upsetting. If the response is to press me on that, then my boundary will simply be to remove myself from the relationship.

I learned a phrase to say in response though: I'm sorry my perfectly reasonable behavior irritates you. (HAHAHAHAH)