What this individual just showed you was her lack of ability to genuinely empathize with your needs. This is her lack, not yours and it’s always disappointing when someone we want to like fails to have this “quality” to them.

Gaslighting? Yes, there are people that have a fake way of looking like they have a true ability to genuinely empathize but they don’t. It’s always a disappointment when we discover this and it does tend to come when we could use a much more genuine response of assuring instead of critical put downs and close mindedness.

It’s always disappointing when we think someone has more then they actually have. She is lacking in self awareness which means having the ability to recognize how her response to you was showing disrespect.

I am with you in that there is nothing wrong with giving Andy more recovery time and ease him back into a program as he regains his physical ability back.