That is terrible. I am sorry you are dealing with this. Has your boyfriend tried to talk to him? Are there ways to get together with other family members without him around, or does he live with their parents? I would try to limit contact, especially if others are not stepping in to defend you.


I went through something sort of similar with my ex. His youngest brother and his wife did not like me because I am an expat living in this country. They wanted to see him with a more traditional Chilean woman They would do things like call me and talk to me in a stereotypical accent of a native English speaker trying to speak Spanish. I am fluent in Spanish and do not even talk like that. At family events they were also rude. Finally, I limited the times I would have to see them. I would go to the larger family events where I could just say a quick hi and spend the rest of the time socializing with other people, but I would not go to their house or other small things where they would be.


He was the youngest and always babied by the rest of the family all of his life, even though by then he was an adult with a wife and child. He didn't seem to want to change, so there was not much else I could do.

Ironically, some months after I started limiting contact he had the nerve to ask me to help him with his English because he was getting bad grades in an English class he was taking. I refused to do it.

I hope things get better!