Like NP said, I'm not fully sure what the boundary is here, aside from telling him something that I suspected would make him uncomfortable. But I agree that both he and ex-MC were bad with setting boundaries and being consistent with them. Dr. T seems like he prides himself on having clear boundaries, but he really doesn't in many areas.

Email is one because it's very much up to his whims when he charges for one (well, he didn't for most of the pandemic). He won't say anything like "You can send x amount of words per week/month" or "x number of emails." It's just some arbitrary amount in his head that's too much. And I can think of a time or two prepandemic where he said, "I normally would have charged you for this email, but I'm choosing not to." And he's said before that he only replies in the morning (unless it's like a scheduling thing, which is different), but then he'll sometimes respond in the evening.

And other stuff. Ex-MC was really bad about it, and part of what led to our final rupture was that I called him out on it. He said something like, "I've always been very clear and consistent on my boundaries with you and H," and I was like, "Oh, now you're calling boundaries into play?" And said how he hadn't been consistent at all. Which of course he denied.

In the beginning, I thought Dr. T did have clear and consistent boundaries, but I've come to realize that they are neither clear nor consistent. I'm sure he'd still claim that they are.