I agree I find the comments about the bra and panties not matching a red flag. I’m not sure what that might indicate about him, though. Someone who is too rigid about appearances, too objectifying of women?

Have you seen the movie 9 1/2 Weeks? (Kim Basinger and Mickey Rourke). This feels a bit like that to me. He buys her sexy clothes and they get into a kinky sexual relationship. Of course it ends badly. Very hot movie, though…

I agree with the suggestions about telling him you don’t want him to buy you clothes and you like how you dress.