This "sabotage" comment is interesting to me. Did he give you any more context? Or did he share what he told the other therapists? From my perspective, you're showing remarkable restraint on this issue, so what is the sabotage? (Or maybe I'm way more unhinged in my therapy than I ever even considered! ) I wonder to what degree the advice he is getting is colored by the way he tells the story? Or maybe he asked for feedback on r/coldfishtherapists....