First of all, Ltlredvett, I'm your bud, ok? That being said, I have to say I really didn't believe you anyway. I thought there had to be more to the story than you were letting on. So, this doesn't come as a surprise, BUT... I'm really proud of you for coming clean, not only to us but more importantly, to yourself. I think this is a superb first step toward understanding yourself, which we all need to do before we can really be a good partner in a relationship.

I believe you are like two people, too -- the first one you mentioned is true (the decent, kind person), but you're off-base on the second -- you're not a lowlife scum; you were just scared and hurt and making some wrong choices in hopes that you would feel better or that she would change her behavior in reaction. Not lowlife scum, though.

Ian is going to be a-ok!