Eskie, well definitely I learned those people are not people I can discuss this with for support. But I do want to discuss it with dog people I know because I want to know how other people have dealt with injuries, and also, yes, it's upsetting for me that my dog might be hurt and anxiety provoking, etc. I did end up talking to a few people who were very supportive, understood my fears, and told me about their experiences with their dogs having an injury.

As you said, and I agree, now I know those people aren't safe to have discussions beyond pleasantries with. One of the people I did talk to encouraged me to think about distancing myself from some of my current agility group. She pointed out that a lot of these groups (happens with horses too, right) get to be toxic and judgmental, and it's better to be around people with the kind of mentality and attitude and spirit that you also want to reflect.

I agree with her AND I also know that you can't avoid some of the attitude/toxicity. I think the best thing is to get some distance and set some boundaries for myself. My trainer, in particular, was there for me through Astro's passing, so it's not all bad, but she definitely has a different attitude about Andy.