You are correct. that is not his job. There is always the wanting to know how someone that we once cared for is doing so I understand his curiousity.

You still have to work on your trusting him and I think it would have been better to ask him if he was hiding anything from you. Women have a kind of intuition or 6th sense about their men or man in their life. You knew something was wrong so why not just persue that feeling next time. If he really wanted to be honest and open with you he would have, or you could have told him that you felt like you needed to do some checking because you didn't feel like he was being honest. Eventually he would have had to tell you if he truly cared for you.

All in all you two worked this out. Don't hold any bad feelings against her, she is out of the picture. As for him and his weight problem, my advice is to cut trans fats out of your diet as well as high fructose corn syrup and the weight will just drop.

Good luck to you both.