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Old Dec 15, 2022, 06:37 AM
rdgrad15 rdgrad15 is offline
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Originally Posted by rechu View Post
I was thinking of starting a thread for people having at tough time around the holidays, but since I saw your thread, it makes more sense to post here.

I am dreading the holiday season this year. Definitely feeling very "Bah Humbug". Relations with my family of origin are tense to non-existent, to put it nicely. I reached a breaking point earlier this year with them where I just could not deal with all their crap any more.


Similarly, my husband does not have a close relationship with his biological family. He was raised by his godmother, who passed away when he was 18 or 19.


I from the U.S. but live in South America. Christmas and New Year's Eve are always oppressively hot because it is summer, which I never seem to get fully used to.

Here Christmas, in particular, is very much a family holiday. So, in my case it is just me and my husband. The big meal is the evening of Christmas Eve. We usually cook something special and buy some good wine.

Where we used to live, we would get together with our neighbor friends for New Year's Eve. Unfortunately we are kind of far to go into the city now because we had to move to be able to purchase a home. Driving on New Year's Eve is never the greatest idea and the security situation in this country is such that driving late at night is not particularly safe. Staying somewhere in the city isn't a great option either, because the dogs would be alone for a long time. So, I guess it will just be us at home too.

All the imagery of these happy families celebrating this time of year definitely grates on my nerves.

At least we gave ourselves a little treat and bought a new grill as our Christmas present. I am sure we will grill something tasty on it for Christmas Eve.

Hugs to everyone that is having a rough time during the holidays!
I agree with you, I'm not a big fan of the holidays and I've talked about that in some threads I created as well. The feelings of loneliness some people may feel due to not having family or friends may be too much to bear and feels like a slap in the face, others may just not like feeling obligated. No one likes forced family interactions, it doesn't even come off as genuine and I've frequently heard adults outright admit they can't wait for the holidays to be over. In fact when January comes, I've always noticed people's moods seem increase and there seems to be a silent collective sigh of relief and like I said many adults will come right out and say they are so glad it's over and things are back to normal which is how I feel too.
Hugs from:
nonightowl, rechu
Thanks for this!
nonightowl, rechu