Well, sorry to report more of the same.

Phoned her earlier and got the sarcastic "good morning" tone. When I said Oh, she launched into the what do you expect vitriol. Totally ignored fact that I hadn't been well.

I told her about my type 2 diagnosis and of course, it was all my fault for not telling her sooner. When I asked if her behaviour would have been different, I didn't get an answer.

She's also denying that her behaviour has been going on for over a year (we were in the same position this time last year). She then asked why I hadn't pulled her up about it sooner. My response was but I have but you keep looking to start an argument over the same subjects. Apparently it's because I'm not sympathetic about how she's being treated, although she's done same for me when I've had a little moan about my neighbours.

So, we continue with the "tit for tat" behaviour. Also saying things that weren't true/putting her slant on them instead of the truth.

Then we had the start of crying. Saying she was lonely and wasn't looking forward to Christmas. well, only Christmas Day when we're going to my brothers. Didn't get chance to mention invite to my aunt's the day after.

Bottom line is I'm still a great disappointment to her that I don't sit down and listen to her problems. Then in next breath, she acknowledges how much time/effort I've put into taking her to medical appointments, sorting out medication, etc. Then it's back to how I'm treating her because I've suggested she taken up issues with the people concerned. The answer was "I'm not going to cause any unpleasantness". My response was "why do you consider it okay to take it out on me instead". All I get is "I'm your mother and you're my daughter". In other words, she thinks she can behave just how she wants.

Same old, same old....