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Originally Posted by stopdog
Just because someone has a feeling doesn't mean they get to inflict it on others is how I see it. It is fine for you to have it, but it isn't something others should have to have imposed on them. To me it is like people who claim to be "huggers" and think that means they get to hug everyone because it is their preference and if someone else declines it is suppressing the hugger. I would think whether a therapist is useful in pointing that out might somewhat depend upon whether someone feels bad or rejected just because someone else does not want wanton emotions or hugs inflicted on them. (I am not saying this is the thing going on with lt and that therapist - just offering it as a different view)
on another topic:
I always have some song going through my head - I thought everyone did -but after asking -it seems I was wrong and not everyone does. Today's song is I Ain't Hep to that Step But I'll Dig It.
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This is a good point, too. As it can be important to respect others' boundaries. R drew the comparison to my D (regarding Dr. T). She doesn't generally like being hugged. So I always ask if she wants a hug (like if she's upset and seems to want comfort). I don't just go in for one. (I'm not really a hugger either.)
Also, she's OK with eye contact, but as another example, I've read how painful eye contact can be for many autistics. So it's not right to be pushing kids or adults to make eye contact when it's uncomfortable for them.
And I tend to have a song going in my head much of the time as well.