Understanding ADHD has honestly helped me more than most anxiety treatment.i have always had anxiety and I go ages in between panic now. I credit that to EMDR but also I am on low level adderall. I cried so much understanding why I feel things so deeply sometimes and what that comes from so I guess I'm biased lol

I have read a lot about unmasking autism and adhd and it has brought a lot into focus. Including that I always try to hide my true feelings for the comfort of everyone else instead of wondering and tackling why those feelings exist. It's not that I give myself a pass to leak my feelings on other people, it's that I can tackle them and help me feel better which in turn stops me being awful to be around.

Understanding why I do things has helped me figure out how to stop them more than just being ashamed of how I reacted and how it affects people. I always felt like I understood the fights my wife and I had but powerless to stop being grumpy and I hated myself. Now I tackled why. I understand just how overstimulated I was ALL of the time and how to calm that down so now I don't blow up at people at all.

I know you have emetophobia too and interestingly a lot of people who have it are neurodivergent and it can come from a place of sensory overload.

I'm not saying we should all go around not thinking how we affect people and behaving how we do, I'm only saying that in some cases it can be helpful to examine why it's happening. Looking at that, with compassion, can really help calm your nervous system down and prevent it from the root.