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Originally Posted by Tart Cherry Jam
he is not, I think. Otherwise he would have long sought medical help. He once asked me (some time ago) if orgasms would help my depression. He thinks it is about MY orgasms. In reality it is not. It is about normal (in my book) intercourse and HIS orgasms. Without orgasms on his side, it is not working for me.
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I think it a fallacy that there is medical help for this deeply entrenched physical and psychological personal problem. MAYBE within the context of a stable relationship. There are delaying tactics etc. But it wont change who he is.
I dont understand why you are so invested in the form his personal sexual expression takes. You may have a preference for PIV sex, but why would you insist he change? Ya know? Its like getting him to switch from tea to coffee so you can share coffee in the morning. That doesnt seem fair to me. It DOES seem fair to stop meeting for coffee, or for you to switch to tea, or for you to enjoy your coffee alone, but you seem to think there is something NECESSARILY wrong with him. I say its his choice and its your choice. Sometimes things just dont work out.