That is one reason I am asking about it here before talking to him, to be able to express my feelings without hurting him. I am very annoyed because I think that I want is so basic, that I am not asking for anything extraordinary, and therefore it annoys me that he does not seem bothered at all by not delivering this very basic quintessential thing but instead is bothered by odd and completely irrelevant things, such as wiping up his sperm and even the fact that I have smooth skin and he does not. I do not care about the smoothness of his skin in the least. So I am annoyed and growing more annoyed. I am even annoyed by his messages such as "I hope you have had a good weekend" (he lives very far so he does not visit that often). I guess it is just time to have a conversation with him in a minimalist way, as you say, by saying that I am built and set up the way I am and the physical side of our relationship is not working for me as it is.