Also....

My oldest said to me last night.

You grew up on a farm, in an alcoholic home. You were used to being over responsible at a young age. And no matter how much responsibility you shouldered it was never like someone said thank you, you're awesome, good job.

So then you just found or created that same pattern in your adult life, where the responsibility and blame are yours, and you're hungry for some credit and positivity that you never get.

RDM