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jinnyann said:

I'm just so confused,this is the first time in my life i have had 'correct' therapy for my issues and it is so overwhelming.

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((((((((((((((((((( jinnyann )))))))))))))))))))

Starting therapy is a really confusing time. I think when I started it was the first time it was really "safe" to explore the different parts of myself, the full magnitude of the things that had happened to me in my life, the feelings I'd run from for so many years. That's a lot.

What helped was writing in my journal, posting on here (once I found this site a few months after starting therapy) and being gentle with myself. I'd always been this really independent person, a total overachiever - and I had to let myself just "be" for a while and not expect so much from myself. I ordered food instead of cooking for my family, I played guitar hero instead of cleaning the house, I gave my kids extra days off of school (we homeschool). The pendulum is slowly swinging back the other way, and I'm able to be in therapy AND keep up with my normal life. But I had to take that time (and it was months) to kind of let things go for a while at the beginning.

So, I guess what I'm saying is be gentle with yourself. This stuff takes a lot of time to deal with - you won't feel better overnight. But you WILL feel better bit by bit by bit.

Sending lots of