The best revenge is living well.

Most people don’t care to be involved in other people’s marital issues or divorce reasons. I belong to group of friends and I’d not be passing message than someone was unfaithful. It’s not my business. If it’s my family or personal friend, I’d support them in their plight but I’d not be talking about it to other friends. People usually look it at as whatever happened is between two people and it’s better to stay neutral.

She might spread the word but not in the manner that you wish.

I’d continue venting to your own family and personal friends and maybe try to find a therapist again, but I’d not be sharing details of your marriage and divorce with mutual friends

Continue doing well and take slow steps in moving on with your life