My T will talk on the phone with me, but he prefers for us to be together - for the reason lauren_helene said - there is so much more going on than just what we're saying. And actually, for me, I prefer to be with him in person, so I *can* see his reaction. When we're together, I can see his gaze, his smile, his body language, and I know I'm safe and accepted. On the phone, it's too easy for me to imagine him rolling his eyes or whatever. Hmmm. Don't I sound secure! lol