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Old Dec 21, 2022, 06:24 AM
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Originally Posted by TishaBuv View Post
I feel like we are two people having to try way too hard and life is not supposed to be like that. The things that have been really hurtful and traumatic are hard to just forgive and forget.
This - yes. It IS too hard and you ARE trying way too hard to make something work that doesn't work.

And I know the feeling. Even though I said I forgave my abusive husband for his infidelity, I never got over it and it haunted me the whole time we were back together. I never felt secure and I realized after the fact that once I got back together with him, I bent over backwards to please him because I felt at fault, and it still did not work, no matter how hard I tried.

You're right. It should not be this hard.
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Thanks for this!
TishaBuv