I located a therapist certified in the Gottman method and asked to be a patient. Their description also says they are trained in EMDR, trauma, CBT, so I think this may be a therapist good for me. I hope to start seeing them by myself and then maybe they will see my husband and me together.

We are a couple, married for decades, who have done all the ‘what not to do’s’ in this course. I doubt the course was designed as self help for one as dysfunctional as us. It’s retraumatizing to go through the course together as it teaches us the right things to do that trigger flashbacks of all the wrong things we have done.