I guess my hope had been that, over time, these two siblings of mine would mature out of these behaviors. Actually, I wasn't all that hopeful in my brother's case. With my sister, I really am surprised that this is happening again. Maybe I've had unrealistic expectations. I guess it's me who has to adjust to the reality that this is who she is.

Maintaining close family relationships across a long geographic distance is not easy. For years I've put in what I think was considerable effort - remembering kids' birthdays, flying out for important occasions, making sizable financial contributions. You can't build a bridge from one side only. You have to be met from the other side.

I have another sister. Yesterday, I picked up a box from her at the post office. It was filled with wrapped gifts to put under my tree. I have that to be thankful for.

I'm tired and need a nap. Fretting over what others do or don't do can wear a person out. It's sure not the best use of my mental energy.