I am impressed that you took the time to sort this through AND considered the feelings of others. I can see you are a considerate person. I admire that quality. I see too many situations where a person’s attitude is more of “how dare you think I would be interested in you “. People have no idea how they give away their narcissistic selfishness in how they interact. I have to admit I had not heard of the challenge you shared about this man. Some men have challenges, it can be cruel to punish them emotionally for it. Other than his physical challenge he sounds like a very caring thoughtful man.
There definitely are women out there that would love the fact that this man is so kind and caring and doesn’t have to have the sex. Some women don’t really orgasm either. Yet are nice and caring women otherwise. Also some women have to take ADs that help their mental health but pretty much kills their sexual desire. This kind of woman would love to have caring companionship without the sexual stress.
It takes time to find the right match. People don’t deserve to be hurt because they don’t fit some ideal.