Mouse,
Thank you for saying that. I think my concern is not about being able to explain the physiology. I think I can do that, even with some skill. I think where my anxiety comes from is knowing that my son is now becoming sexually aware and aroused. My experience with boys during these adolescent years...is that some of them do some really crazy things. Many of my memories include really stupid things but also a lot of cruel, violent, and unpredictable things. I know I am being hyper... but its affecting me and I don't want it transfered to him unconsciously. He has always been a very emotional child. He needs and wants a lot of attention from me. He likes to hug, cuddle, hang on or jump on me, will still climb into bed with my H and I occasionally. None of this seems sexually motivated but in the past year I've started to become wary of it. And I hit me full force when he was talking with me the other day.

I'm thinking he is becoming an adolescent, isn't he supposed to be in the avoiding me at all costs mode? I mean...I'm his mother for God's sake .... considered old and fat...I shouldn't be worrying about him. But as irrational as it sounds, I am. Do non-abused people think about this crap? Sorry if I sound ignorant in this topic... but I guess I just don't know.