the problem is that "well meaning" people say the most hurtful things.. basically it is NOT ok to talk openly about active ED symptoms in chat. There are several of us regulars there who know that we can only talk when it's just us. If you say you have only had a few calories, someone is bound to start in with things like "why don't you...." do this do that, eat something... "you're killing yourself" and so on...

i mean, afterall... just stop having an ED and get better. Just eat something. Yeah... just don't throw up - easy, right?

The number one thing someone can do to give support to a person with an ED (or anything else for that matter) is to LISTEN and NOT JUDGE. Try NOT offering advice.. offer support.. offer a listening ear... suggest solutions and not just tell them they are wrong for having an illness.

ok... off my soapbox for now.. will try not to explode