On another note, I'm recalling how he ruined holidays every year for me, Christmas included. Last year, he demanded that we leave my sister's home before all presents were unwrapped because he suddenly did not "feel well". He got mad that I said no, we have to wait a few mins, and fought with me in the car about it on our way home. He almost ruined the whole Christmas day for me because of that. He told me in the car that if I weren't feeling good, that he would have left right away for me. I said in reply that it's a family gathering and it's rude to leave before all the presents were opened.

Another year, he fought with me on New Years Eve, almost ruining that holiday. He also fought with me on Thanksgiving Day, refusing to go to my family's home for dinner. I had to bring him home a plate of food that year. He fought with me on my Aunt's 80th birthday, whereby she was having a large family private gathering. He almost didn't go to that event with me. And, last, I remember he almost ruined his own birthday one year by fighting with me on the day of.

Anything that takes attention away from the narc and anything that brings me joy, he tried to ruin.

Not this year!!!!!!