Ok, I heard from him about our divorce paperwork. He then gave me a full sob story, I’m sure to invoke guilt in me. He claims he was all alone for the holiday. Yet his first statement was about not getting any presents or cards. Then naturally he launches into all about how he feels without asking me how I am doing. He did say something about my dad not being around for Christmas. But still, it was a sob story, and I don’t feel guilty at all. I imagine he’s going to NY for NYE and I will be home alone. I didn’t tell him this and I didn’t ask him what he’s doing. I don’t want or need to know. The less I know the better off I am. I also don’t want to reveal anything about what I’m up to - it’s not his business. And what he does is not my business either. I’m fine with it.

He also told me he has a heart murmur and he’s worried about a potential heart attack. Two men in his family died of a heart attack in their fifties. I wonder about it. I told him I hope it’s a benign issue. I did also tell him that I’m sorry he had a difficult holiday. Yep, that’s my niceness coming out. He did lose both his parents so I feel some amount of compassion is the best way to go.