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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
I’ll say better things-
Elderly parents are in failing health, getting injured while trying to be independent. They stubbornly refuse to cooperate with med professionals and make everything harder for themselves. It is very upsetting (though I am not dysregulated). I don’t know what I can do to help them when they refuse help, horrible to watch.
Husband is here being emotionally supportive. He is upset and frustrated about them too.
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Omg tell me about it.
That’s my dad for you. It’s terrible. My brother and I are in constant struggle with it. And before anyone says anything about it, in a situation with my dad it’s not “not wanting to give up independence”.
My dad loves everything to be about him. It’s not age related. He’s been always like this. He was like this at 40. If he is being a martyr everyone pays attention to him. If someone else helps him, attention is off him and on those who helped him (in his mind).
My mom was nothing like that. She was graciously accepting of help. I used to clean their house and my mom loved it. Since she died it’s been a hassle. My dad would do crazy things. Right before my brother would arrive to plow snow or something he’d run outside and do it even though he’d agree to my brother doing it. My brother would arrive to everything done. I can write a novel. The funniest thing he’d complain that he needs help but then refuses help.
We also think he needs to stop driving but it will be a battle. And he also does not cooperate with medical professionals. He goes to see doctors but then claims they know nothing and he wouldn’t follow their directives. “What do they know these doctors?”