Don't beat yourself up Artie. I think that a lot of us probably do some comparisons with ourselves and our loved ones with how we are/they are and how we would like us/them to be. I know I would like my parents to give more hugs than they do. Doesn't mean I love them less. Just highlights a need that I have. Maybe you have a need that your H will not criticize you--which is kind of what it sounded like to me--and instead be supportive. I don't think that is too much to ask for. HUGS if wanted, Kit