These are the questions my therapist asked me when I thought I was healed because I was at the top of a wave of grief. Healing is based on the amount of damage was done.

1. How long has your longest relationship been and who was it with?
2. What are 5 important things to know about that relationship?
3. Was that relationship always satisfying and loving?
4. What personal values did that person show through their actions in the relationship?

Maybe your answers can help you find what you are looking for since it doesn't seem that you are finding what you had hoped in the dating world.

For what it's worth, I've found much higher quality people to connect with by enjoying my life offline than I ever did online.