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lizardlady · Dec 31, 2022 at 01:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Space Wizard

Hi folks,

Thanks, yeah, I got so wound up writing this that I sort of forgot to make it practical. My question is more along the lines of, “how do I put my air mask on?”

I know that continuing the situation as it is unsustainable and I can’t do anything for anyone if I don’t look after myself first, but I don’t know how to get out of it in a way that is safe for both of us.

Thanks again.

I believe your best way of putting on your air mask is to mentally and physically take a giant step backward. In practical terms limited your contact with Jordan. No face to face contact. Greatly limit answering phone calls and texts. Mentally, remind yourself you are not responsible for Jordan. This might, most likely will, result in Jordan making greater efforts to draw you in. Set boundaries about limiting contact and stick to them.

I agree with Hope that Jordan has lied to you and used you. This will be hard, but stick to it. You deserve better treatment and are NOT responsible for Jordan.