I decided not to go. I am proud of myself for sparing myself from that stress at this time. I’m sure I’ll need to go later, but I didn’t need to go right now. I sent Mom flowers instead to the hospital. We talk on the phone.

The Mom and FOO situation is complicated. My folks are very elderly and physically feeble. They have no money aside from their home and Social Security. They are still of sound mind, but everything is starting to get worse quickly degenerating. They should be living in assisted living, but they didn’t want to go.

My mom is currently in a rehab facility and has stopped the constant complaining, seems to like it atm, says the food is good. So maybe they will both want to go be residents?

I have an aunt and two sisters. They care about Mom with constant phone calls, lots of opinions, and they all give some money to them when they are asked. But none of them have made any calls on their behalf to help them, only me, getting them the aid they need, talking to the doctor.

Mom expected one of us daughters to take her in to live with them. I was the one groomed for this. I sold my big house and “ran away”. None of us are willing to do this. Plus, Mom is a contrarian who gives mixed messages about what she wants, doesn’t know what she wants anyway.

So their options are live in their home or a nursing home. I am assisting them to do either, but there will be a lot of fighting when Mom wants to live with me and I have to say no. There is all this drama with her doctor who calls me to say come get your mother and take her!