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Originally Posted by divine1966
This person is a habitual liar and a cheater. No it’s not growing pain in a new relationship and I don’t buy that she doesn’t understand that lying is a problem. Sure liars do know that lying is wrong. They are not 2-year olds
I’d focus on your own life rather than this person’s life and possibly seek therapy for yourself. You’d benefit from figuring out why you want to be with such people and why do you continue pursuing them despite them behaving horribly and ending it with you
Having said all that, it’s absolutely not your place to call her psychiatrist. Simply because you went to few appointments doesn’t give you a permission to call them about this person. They aren’t your family: spouse or child or a parent (even then it’s not your place unless permission was given to you). This is someone you briefly dated while they slept around. That’s not the kind of relationship where you call their doctor.
What did a psychiatrist say? Why did they even listen to you? As terrible as this Jordan person is, it would be very understandable if she was upset you are calling her medical providers. Please stop doing such things but instead seek help for yourself.
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It could be tone not conveying properly over text, but this strikes me as a pretty hostile response to someone fumbling through a tough situation and I do feel compelled to defend myself a tiny bit here. If I am misreading your tone or intent then I apologize.
The doctor did not speak to me or anything like that. I'm not equipped to offer any more support to Jordan, the sooner they extricate themselves from my life the better, but I don't want anything bad to happen to them
nor to anyone else, which I think is a real risk with someone like this. So I left an anonymous message for the doctor about the alcoholism and the fabricated suicide attempts as a "hey man, this person's mental health is getting really bad, you are a professional entrusted with their care so I think you should know it happened" thing.
Someone made a similar phone call for a close friend of mine a few years ago when he was hiding his own drug and alcohol use from his psychiatrist. Ultimately that phone call saved my friend's life.
Regardless this is all stuff I will be discussing with my own therapist, who I am going back to seeing this coming week, and any discussion of my own brain problems - which are greatly improved but obviously not gone - will have to be saved for another thread.
Might check this one again in the future, might not as I am a bit embarrassed reading it all back to myself.