Yeah, you've both noted turning points here - there was a period at the beginning of this whole saga where they seemed to be really taking their recovery seriously, very candidly acknowledging their problems and how those problems impact other people, and what concrete steps they were going to take to fix them, and I was like, "well, hell, I can roll with that." But then they started spiraling again, the drug and alcohol use increased (they never did drugs and rarely drank when we were together), the lies started piling up, the psychosis got more bizarre... I think I've gotten better at recognizing people who can and want to be helped, and once it became obvious that that's not what was happening here my mood soured pretty quickly. All in all a lesson learned for me. Hopefully for them too, at some point.