Whelp, I am not sure it was what either of us was expecting. New T was as ready to refer me out as I was to ditch him... Until I said that I needed to use this session to figure out what happened because I needed to learn from this experience.

We both worked REALLY hard... I honestly don't think I have ever worked that hard in a therapy session and I have been in therapy on and off since 1994! Even new T was kind of surprised by how hard we were working and how much we were accomplishing.

Neither of us knew how much I was dissociating in session.

We cleared up a LOT of misunderstandings.

I think clearing up the misunderstandings moved us closer to what I was needing as far as pace and our work in general

New T is going to be making up a list of the boundaries he needs in order to professionally feel safe continuing with me. Which acknowledges my need for things to be very clear. He is going to email them to me and if I feel like I can work within them then we will set up our next session.

Right now the ones I know are:
He does not feel safe with hugs right now
He is not comfortable continuing our somatic work right now
text for scheduling only
No email
Phone calls and going over session he will charge me a prorated rate on
He did say that we WOULD continue the somatic work once both us were feeling safe.

Today was really hard and I am tired BUT it totally validated the potential I saw in him. If we can continue to work like this together we will do some really great things!

I did tell him at one point he was being a little S*t and he got a good laugh out of it... but didn't take offence.

He said he would try to get me the boundaries no later than tomorrow... and I wait impatiently.

Have to admit I am really impressed with him today.