You sweetie picked the right name for yourself because you are indeed a wise woman. You're right. I don't need a romantic relationship right now, I wasn't looking for one when it happened, it just did. I wasn't careful enough to be drawn into something that was not good for me. Now I work on me. I have therapy tomorrow and now I go with a whole new outlook on my life than I had several hours ago thanks to some wonderful sisters at this site.